Brene Brown, author of The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are explores why and how some folks are better at bouncing back from hardship than others. As coaches, we want to understand why some people cope with stress and trauma in a way that allows them to move forward in their lives, yet other people are more affected and seem to get “stuck”.
As a breakthrough expert and Success Coach, I have found in my coaching practice that the strength of true compassion, combined with the safe vulnerability my clients can demonstrate, inevitably leads them to experience breakthroughs. Allowing “ourselves to be vulnerable; exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of strength and struggle” as Brown explains, are keys to engaging clients in the process of releasing their limiting beliefs and the old story they tell themselves about who they “really” are.
The art of true compassion in coaching conversations yields a judgement-free zone that fosters the freedom for clients to be vulnerable, to reveal a client’s own imperfections, and to allow meaningful coaching to transpire.
As we encourage clients who are authentically engaged in change to be compassionate with themselves, and to allow struggle, each leaning into the difficulty instead of resisting it, things become “unstuck” and forward motion resumes.
Anita Lane is a Co-Founder of the Austin Coaching Coalition. You can reach her at: Anita@AnitaCoaching.com